Also, do we just type in the normal Rcon commands into chat? or do you have some sort of special command spec sheet?
The commands that you can type are all laid out on the Easy setup page there
Yeah, would love the ability to choose admins, dont want random pubs hearing about this and trying out commands on our servers, and griefing. This is IMO the first thing you need to fix.
I'm not sure what you mean. Choosing admins is fundamental to how it works and needs to be the first thing that you do. Anyone who is not an admin will be blocked from using any commands (though they can still trigger on_chat messages)
Also, Does this (Beta Daemon Tool Activation) require a Server restart to go into effect? or will a map change do?
Neither is needed. It takes effect automatically after about 30 seconds.